Make Me Feel... Free!

Since March of this year, the remarkably talented and beautifully melanated Janelle Monae has dropped four new singles, accompanied with four jaw dropping videos. One of those videos includes Pynk ft Grimes, which shows Monae wearing vagina pants, with Tessa Thompson's head popping out from between the lips. Oh how the rumor bees were a buzzing!

Today, Monae's interview from Rolling Stone magazine dropped. In that interview, Monae addresses her much discussed sexuality and finally comes out as a QUEER BLACK WOMAN!!! Those like myself have been waiting for this moment. It is such a monumental moment! It feels like we can finally exhale and celebrate with Monae in her proclamation. Monae states in Rolling Stone: "Being a queer black woman in America," she says, taking a breath as she comes out, "someone who has been in relationships with both men and women – I consider myself to be a free-ass motherfucker." She initially identified as bisexual, she clarifies, "but then later I read about pansexuality and was like, ‘Oh, these are things that I identify with too.' I'm open to learning more about who I am."

The reason why Monae coming out feels so emotional for myself and for the black queer community, is because we have lacked representation for such long time. We are starved to see people like us in mainstream media. We are starved for stories that show some form of resemblance of our lives. Lena Waithe, an out and proud gay black women, made history this year by becoming the first black woman to win an Emmy for outstanding writing in a comedy. Waithe's 'Thanksgiving' episode, which she wrote for the Netlifx show 'Master of None' was soooo important to me personally. I actually made my family members sit down and watch it in entirety because it was so damn relevant. It is important for black families to see other queer black people. To know that we are here and we are valid human beings. To see that we have and deserve real love in our lives. And that we can be successful beings. It's so so important for this narrative to become normalized.

Inspired by Monae, I'd like to officially come out as a pansexual cis woman of color. Up until very recently I identified as bi and/or fluid, but I feel I have always been pansexual. Just like Monae, it certainly feels good to be free! See you at her concert.

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